What is bondage?
Photo: Alithia Maltese & Usagi Momo (photo by Vazkor)
Tying up your partner is one of the most popular erotic fantasies and many people have dreamed of doing it. Someone even tried it. But how many know how to name this business?
Bondage is the practice of limiting or temporarily preventing a person's ability to move and / or their sensory capacity.
It is important to underline, for the layman, that at the basis of everything there is consensus.
Why are so many people interested in this practice? What attracts them?
Why is bondage attractive to us?
The aesthetics, the sense of constraint, the relationship that is created between those who bind and those who are bound, the deep intimacy and mutual trust that develops, the idea of being at the mercy of the other person, the endorphins that are released by intense sensations that you feel, the possibility of letting yourself go completely in the arms of someone for whom you feel desire, taking care of those you love, exploring the eroticism and pleasure of yourself and others, sharing an experience that is unique each time and different, a journey to take together.
These are the ingredients that attract most of the people.
Photo: Alithia Maltese with Hecate Ropes (photo by Marina Zaia)
What tools can we use?
Bondage can be done with very different tools: chains, handcuffs, straitjackets, wristbands, anklets, are just some of the tools used.
Regarding the limitation of sensory perception, eye patches, hoods, headphones, gloves can be used, just to give an idea.
Then there is a particular type of bondage to which it is appropriate to dedicate a separate paragraph: rope bondage, or bondage made with ropes.
By its very nature, the rope is an extremely versatile object that allows us to create bindings that adapt to the body of the tied person.
Unlike wristbands and anklets, using the ropes we can also control the intensity of the interaction, so we can also decide what kind of atmosphere we want to create during the tying.
The rope is therefore a means that can more easily adapt to our needs according to the situation in which we find ourselves.
Western bondage vs. kinbaku
We can make a macro distinction between western bondage (western style) and Japanese bondage (oriental style, also called shibari or kinbaku).
The erotic ligature as we know it today is not as ancient as most believe but it developed in the twentieth century in the United States of America and Japan.
In a first phase by comparing the images of the two styles it was possible to notice common traits and mutual influences. Just compare these slurs by John Willie and Minomura Kou. Over time, the distinctions have become more evident.
For example, Japanese bondage prefers asymmetry and highlights the shapes of the tied person, western bondage creates symmetrical figures.
Nel kinbaku la corda basta a se stessa. It can be used to get positions in which the tied person is exposed, making them feel ashamed, which for some people is very exciting, or with ligatures you get positions so demanding that it is not necessary to use other accessories to test. the tied person.
In western bondage often the rope is used to immobilize the person and then add other tools for the purpose of the session.
Where can we start to approach bondage?
First of all you have to focus on your desires.
What kind of bondage would we like to practice?
What aesthetic do we prefer: handcuffs and chains, bondage tape or ropes?
Are we interested in immobilizing our partner in a simple and fast way or do we prefer to dedicate ourselves to the moment of binding?
In the first case it is quite simple: just look for the objects that most attract us in the sex shops. There are many, of different materials and colors, the only criterion of choice, in addition to the quality of the product, is our imagination.
As for rope bondage, however, the situation is a bit more complicated. When you decide to take the ropes in hand, attending a course is the wisest choice.
Thanks to the guidance of a teacher we will learn how to limit the risks of this practice.
Participating in the courses and events of your local community will allow students to understand the concepts underlying this discipline, observing other people during practice will allow them to develop their own aesthetic taste, having a reference teacher will allow us to be able to compare ourselves with a person more experienced than us to understand if we are doing something wrong or if we are doing well.
Furthermore, approaching this discipline with your partner will create a new harmony and a new way of feeling and communicating with the other person, favoring the discovery of a new and deeper intimacy.
Important!
Whatever type of bondage we are interested in, we must always keep in mind that any erotic practice must be based on respect for the person with whom we are practicing, a deep desire to listen to each other and the consent of all the parties involved.
That said the last thing we have to do is start having fun!
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Article by Alithia Maltese
For those who want to attend sessions every last Friday of the month there is the Wish and Punishment party, in which I am a resident rigger, so it is possible to see me tied up, usually with my partner.
Private lessons with me are by appointment, so they don't have fixed dates, while the courses and other activities I organize in relation to bondage are always held on weekends.
In Turin we have a very busy schedule! To stay up to date or to find out which events are closest to the readers' cities, just contact me privately on Instagram or by email: alithiamaltese@gmail.com.
Thank you Alithia!
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